My Dear John Letter to Facebook

Dear Facebook,

It’s time we talked.

For months now I’ve been avoiding this conversation. It’s difficult to write these words, as I know the consequences for what I’m about to say.

It’s over.

You came into my life in 2009, bringing with you a friendly distraction, laughter and the occasional emotional moment. Before I knew it, I was swept off my feet – you had become my closest digital friend and confidant. Somehow you knew me better than I did. I’ll always have a special place in my heart for you.

But over time, our relationship began to sour. Blatant ad pimping, secret underhanded behavior and continuous cat videos began pushing me away. I started feeling like you didn’t really care about me and my connections and that you were only with me for the money. We grew apart.

Today we’re more distant than ever. Your stories have become irrelevant, and even when I tell you I’m not interested you keep telling me the same things. Over and over. I share less and less of my life with you, and we only talk when I’m in the restroom. You don’t listen to me and I don’t trust you. It’s clear that we want different things.

I can’t pretend any longer that this relationship is working. It’s not fair to either of us. I know that getting into this relationship was my decision, and now I’m making the decision to leave you.

It’s not you, it’s me.

Please know that I’ll always remember our time together as a special time in my life. I hope you can forgive me and realize that my leaving is the best thing for everyone involved.

I’ll be OK. I’ve started talking to some old friends that I’d like to spend more time with. You met them many years ago, you may remember them as “Privacy” and “Personal Interaction.” I know you’ll be fine as well, I’ve heard you may be dating 2 billion other people.

Please take care of yourself. Even though it hurts right now, this is what’s best for both of us. I’ll always love you.


About The Author: Reg Harnish

Reg Harnish is the CEO of GreyCastle Security, a leading cybersecurity risk assessment, advisory and mitigation firm headquartered in Troy, New York.

As CEO of GreyCastle, Reg is responsible for defining and executing the company’s vision. Under his leadership, the company has experienced six consecutive years of triple-digit growth and countless industry accolades. Today, GreyCastle Security is working with organizations in nearly every state in the U.S.

Reg is a nationally-recognized speaker and has presented at countless industry events. Reg was recently recognized as the Cybersecurity Consultant of the Year in North America by the Cybersecurity Excellence Awards for the second consecutive year. He has been featured in Time, Forbes, CBS Nightly News, The Washington Post, Dark Reading and others.

Reg is a member of the Forbes Technology Council and a fellow of the National Cybersecurity Institute in Washington, DC.